For those who have been brought up in a very nurturing, supportive and encouraging environment, their world might seem like a safe place in which, with work and persistence, they can expect to achieve whatever it is that they set out to do.
Programmed into their unconscious minds are ideas that promote believing in themselves, not fearing failures, which manifests in a “can do” attitude.
For others, not so blessed (and this is where most of us are), it often is a struggle to take on the series of life’s challenges. This group members likely lacked encouragement by parents, teachers, siblings, friends, or society. Very often, in fact, they were discouraged .. They quickly developed an internal running commentary. The amount of discouragement or encouragement any child experiences is completely subjective, not based in facts, however it is as real as real can be.
In fact, I’m going to theorize that every single human on this planet has some kind of a traumatic childhood experience. Since conception.. and up to age 4, we view the world in an emotional and relational manner. We start as an empty slate, and these first experiences and memories shape our reality for years to come. Add to that a lack of insight and most of us get traumatized when we are young. This can start in the womb when we feel what the mother feels but perhaps misinterpret it, at birth many of us experience some trauma, and following that. Many of us felt rejected, fearful of abandonment or death, or hunger.. This is how it is with so many, if not all of us.
The issue then is not whether or not we experienced trauma, or whether or not we have trapped emotions and incorrect and limiting beliefs. The issue that matter is whether or not we are able to be aware of these, and know how to release the trauma, change perceptions or change deep beliefs and programming.
This inner negative self talk often goes like this: Who do you think you are? You’ll never succeed. Everything bad always happens to me. Nothing I do ever works, Why even try? It is too risky. Life is difficult. Why do you think you are better than so and so. Be humble.. and so on, in different variations on that theme.
Many call this inner voice a saboteur, it speaks day in and day out. And the more we hear it, the more we believe it. Even though it speaks automatically, sometimes so quiet that it is almost silent, other times it is loud as if it’s screaming.. Our unconscious mind is always listening to this voice, the more it hears it, the stronger the programming and belief becomes.
What I am here to tell you is that this voice is 1-not your saboteur 2- it is trying to protect you 3- it is a learned belief.
What is learned can be unlearned!
In hypnotherapy, I educate you, I help to de-program you, to remove this type of inner dialogue. Hypnotherapy and Visualization are wonderful ways of erasing those old self defeating messages and replacing them with a more empowering inner voice and a positive mental image.
You can reprogram your mind to believe in yourself and succeed. Whether it is getting a new job, advancing at the one you have, better self- esteem , enhanced performance or simply realizing you are a good person who deserves a good life, this process can help you make the changes that you desire.